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Anatomy Of Freedom

Rob Hamilton — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 08:52:22 +0000

Rob shares his deepest and most revealing process to date! Rob lays out a map of his own internal landscape to walk us through the entire Emotional Scale, finding the buried treasure of hurts and pains that lead him to unprecedented Freedom within.

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Anatomy of Freedom

We start at the very bottom of the emotional scale and work our way to the top. You will notice this natural progression unfold the farther we go. The more you feel each step, or feel your version of each step, the more you will emotionally move and benefit.

Please refer to the description and the “Emotional Scale Chart” at the end of the exercise for more information.

Bottom of Scale: Feeling unlovable

Top of Scale: I feel the love of God inside and easily smile to myself in the knowing of it.

Most people feel unworthy of love in one way or another despite outer appearance – I am not the only one.
Why do I think everyone else is worthy of love and it’s me who is at the mercy of their whims to love me or not?
My own needs, desires and preferences are not important. In fact, I don’t dare bring them up for fear of pushing “love” away. I’ll just change and be what you want me to be and then you’ll stay.
I’ll take whoever shows up—just give me a few crumbs of love and I’ll live with it and forsake myself in the process.
I don’t really have anything to contribute so I’ll stick to what I have and try to not make you miserable in the process. I’ll try to not suck you dry from my neediness and unworthiness.
When you have other interests I don’t like it because I am afraid I will loose your to those other more valuable things.
How can you value me when I don’t value myself?
How dare you have a life of your own. You are supposed to give me all of your attention. This relationship is supposed to be about us, not you!
Asshole! Selfish Bitch! Stone Cold, Emotionless Piece of Shit!
You should really open up and feel more like me. I know that’s why you are so unhappy—you are just afraid to feel!
Maybe I can pretend to not want you so much and then you’ll miss me and come around.
This relationship sucks because you are shut down, uncaring and heartless.
You have mom and dad issues you need to deal with and you’re too afraid to face it. See all the work and pain I go through for my own healing?
I’m going to close my heart to you until you open yours!
Ok, that didn’t last long—I’m in pain again and I hate you for it!
I hate that I can’t figure our how to make this work. There must me some way I will figure out to make you love me more!
I HATE THAT I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER YOU!
If I can’t figure it out I am lost—you are everything to me.
Fuck! I am so lonely! My heart hurts so bad!
God dammit! How do I get out of this! I don’t see any way out. I am trapped.
I hate you for doing this to me! I hate you! I hate you and I want to fucking hurt you like you are hurting me!
God I hurt so much. I am so alone. Why is life this way?
It’s just beyond me to figure out. My head is spinning with torturous thoughts and I think I am going crazy!
All I can feel is the pain.
It’s my pain and I had it before meeting you. I’ve had it for as long as I can remember.
I have always felt an emptiness inside.
I have created many ways to try and not feel it. You are just the latest distraction so I blame you. Its not your fault or responsibility.
I am sorry I put this on you. This is all about me.
I am missing something inside. I don’t believe in myself. I am unworthy.
God…can you please help me? I feel alone and lost. Will you just hold me? I am so tired…so tired and worn out from chasing love and running from my fears. Please just hold me. I need to rest… I give up…I surrender…I need help… I can’t keep doing the same thing over and over and get something different.
Will you help me?
Thank you for listening to everything I just spewed out. You are so patient, so understanding. The more I share the warmer you feel to me—the closer I feel to you.
How do you do that? How do you love me when I am at my worst?
How do you not turn in disgust when I show you who I am?
I guess I am not a bad person. Everyone hurts right?
Thank you for letting me get that load off God. I think I feel a little better and a little clearer.
I can feel more of you in me. When I let go of trying to keep it together you seem to be there ready to support me.
What if I could stop trying to “keep it together” more often? Would you always be there?
I think you would be…
I think you are always here waiting for me to drop my guard and open up. As I feel your warmth I can feel the truth of your constant attention to me. It is me who takes my attention from you.
If I could keep my attention on you, maybe I would not feel so lonely. I don’t feel lonely right now. In fact, I feel pretty good. How do you do that?
This feels better than the love I was trying to get from the other person. It’s trustable—it’s soothing—made just for me.
If I can have this why would I make myself a beggar for something else? My God, that seems so crazy right now! Why was I doing that?
I have all I need right here inside of me.
How could I make someone else responsible for this feeling, this connection? Make them responsible for something they cannot ever give me?
No one else can truly give me this peace. No one else can truly give me this calm, this well being, this flow of truth and love and knowing that is filling my body.
There is nothing missing inside—here with myself. So simple, so plain, so at ease.
This is my value, my true worth. It has been here all along. Is this not worthy to contribute to the world?

How can I take this worthiness, this quiet, humble connection into the world? It is sure to be wanted because it appears to be a rare commodity. Look at all the starving people, myself included, beating each other up for a resource that is completely within our grasp…completely within us…no shortage in sight.
This is where I want to live. This is Home.
I feel so lucky to have found this Love…this missing part of me.
From this vantage point, it is totally ok if you don’t love me. In fact, I no longer need to be with anyone for Love. I want to be with someone because it’s fun, because we share, we laugh, sometimes cry, we explore, discover, adventure, experiment, experience, cook, clean, throw soapsuds and dish rags at each other. We touch, we kiss, we open ourselves fully because we trust ourselves that much. We put trust in the knowing of our own Love, not the expectation of perfection in the other.
Is this what Freedom is? It is not what I thought…it’s better!
This is the Freedom I don’t have to defend. This is the Freedom to be me. To know me, to value me, to care for me, to trust me.
There is nothing more precious for me to nurture than this Love and connection I have inside.
I feel the Love of God and easily smile to myself in the knowing of it.
I have been loveable all along…

Reflections

Did you feel the progression up the scale?

Did you feel an increase of relief along the way or at some point?

Did you hear/feel your own guidance at any point?

For further clarity, read through again as if you were reading it to yourself, about yourself. What did you learn about yourself?

Exercise Description

This exercise is based on working the “Emotional Scale” as outlined by Abraham-Hicks. We start at whatever level we are at and, step by step like climbing a ladder, we work our way up to higher states of connection and clarity. This can be a more effective way of changing how we feel rather than trying to reach for a high level affirmation we cannot feel or believe in.

This process helps us to become aware of the thoughts we are thinking that normally go unchallenged and have their way with us. When we become aware, we can see that the negative thoughts are false and they loose their “charge” and their power over us. The way is then cleared for thoughts to arise that are more accurate and can support us if we feel them and let them in. You will see this natural progression happen in the exercise.

It is important to breathe and feel each step along the way. Take your time. Rather than resisting some feelings and opening to others, the goal is to open to all our feelings. This opening allows the negative feelings to be released from our bodies and the positive or “accurate” feelings to be felt and experienced. It is pleasurable to feel all of our feelings. The pain we associate with some feelings comes when we avoid and resist them.

Make Your Own

The greatest impact is gained by making your own. There are 2 ways to use this scale. You can start at any level you find yourself and begin moving up from there, or, you can start at the bottom to clear out some root negative emotions.

Be completely honest and non-judgmental with yourself. Relax. No one has to see this but you. Let go of holding on to what you think you “should” think and feel and write what you really do think and feel, no matter how dark.

Truth attracts more truth. Denial attracts more denial.

The things we own, can no longer own us. That is how we awaken.

Reach for a real thought that strikes a cord in your body and write it down. (I have found it to be more effective to write with my own handwriting instead of using a computer or doing it my your head.) As you feel that thought, stay open for the next thought that strikes a cord. Don’t rush the process. It can take several minutes find the next impactful thought. The more you insist upon only using the thoughts that strike a cord, the more enlightening this exercise will be and the more you will train yourself to listen to your heart and your gut. Keep going until you feel the relief and freedom from the connection that happens at the top.

The Emotional Scale

From the book “Ask and It is Given”, pg. 114

Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
Passion
Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
Positive Expectation/Belief
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
Overwhelment
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred/Rage
Jealousy
Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

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OUCH! End Emotional Torment! – Thinking vs. Feeling Our Feelings

Rob Hamilton — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 08:44:43 +0000

OUCH! It hurts to be tormented by our emotions! You can stop the hamster wheel of torture that spins in the mind!

Rob Hamilton explains the differences between feelings and emotions and how to re-learn to feel in a pleasurable way.

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I Am A Beautiful Gem – A Weighloss Key

Rob Hamilton — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 01:02:42 +0000

The pinnacle moment I stopped gaining weight and started loosing weight.

We are all Beautiful Gems in the eyes of God. This is how I came to know that inside.

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Focus Wheel Friday#5 – Feeling Inadequate / Powerless

Rob Hamilton — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 00:53:47 +0000

If life begins at the edge of our comfort zone, we better get OK with the unknown if we want growth! How can we find security in the unknown?

Rob Hamilton gives a few ideas to remove inadequacy/powerlessness to relax and become available to the well being that is trying to come to us.

Look to the category “Focus Wheel Friday” for a new focus wheel each Friday..

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Q&A: My Life Is Not What I Expected Or Wanted

Rob Hamilton — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 23:31:42 +0000

Regret, shame and embarrassment can be felt when we get stuck. How can we come alive from depression without artificially forcing new behaviors over old beliefs?

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Focus Wheel Friday #4: Filled With Tension And Self Sabotage

Rob Hamilton — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 23:25:41 +0000

When things get good, are you looking over your shoulder for the fall? Hitting our “upper limit” to the success we allow ourselves to receive is a real phenomenon.

Rob Hamilton demonstrates a Focus Wheel on this very subject.

Look to the category “Focus Wheel Friday” for a new focus wheel each Friday.

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Focus Wheel Friday #3: Others Belief’s Are Stupid

Rob Hamilton — Fri, 28 May 2010 21:10:51 +0000

What? How can you say such a thing!? No one I know is 100% open and non-judgmental. No use in hiding it, let it out to let it go!

Rob Hamilton talks about removing more walls between us and others. Ultimately, more peace and prosperity are the result.

Look to the category “Focus Wheel Friday” for a new focus wheel each Friday.

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God, I Am Freaking Out! – God Dialog 5-10-10

Rob Hamilton — Mon, 17 May 2010 00:52:07 +0000

God, I am freaking out. I am getting all I want and I am scared. I just discovered Abraham-Hicks and the sh*t works. I am feeling trapped by my own success of what I am seeing come into my life. People are starting to see my material, people I don’t know and have no control over who they share it with. And the people you are sending me… good God, how will I ever measure up?

Getting what you want isn’t exactly going how you though yes? It’s ok , that is the part of growing many do not talk about. It can be like giving birth to bring forth a new possibility of your reality. Usually you don’t just wake up one day and feel deserving and capable of embracing all the things you want and have not had in your life. There are reasons certain manifestations have not yet shown up in your life, reasons that can have deep emotional roots. It’s an adjustment, a process, just like life.

All you can do is keep feeling while it is happening, and you are. Your tears are cleansing your old patterns and beliefs. No one wants to cry and yet it is a natural cleanser. It is not by accident you cry. It is not a flaw. It is a natural expression of change. Physically, energetically, bio chemically, emotionally…

The one thing you can count on is that things are not as you think they are in all areas of life and the only sure thing you can do is not resist. Jesus showed you a very ultimate expression of non-resistance. That is when you realize your life is not your own, in a very real sense. Your life belongs to your true-self, not your small self and when you are ready to feel and experience the perfection of that, you give up the small self.

This can look similar to when a loved one dies. You resist, you get angry, you deny, and finally, you break and you cry and when you cry from your heart you are cleansed and what remains is the love, the truth of that person that your heart can now feel because the small self has stepped out of the way. In fact, you can never really feel the true essence of another until the small self lets go of how it sees the world. If the small self has resistance to something it sees in the outside world, it will look ugly and wrong to you. When viewed through your true self, that same set of circumstances is beautiful, illuminated and makes perfect sense just the way it is.

Now apply that to yourself. When a part of you is ready to die (transform) you resist, you get angry, you deny, and finally, you break and you cry and when you cry from your heart you are cleansed and what remains is the love, the truth of yourself that your heart can now feel because the small self has stepped out of the way. In fact, you can never really feel the true essence of yourself until the small self lets go of how it sees the world. If the small self has resistance to something it sees in itself, that part of you will look ugly and wrong to you. When viewed through your true self, that same set of circumstances is beautiful, illuminated and makes perfect sense just the way it is.

So cry Rob and let your change happen. Don’t judge yourself. It is how you come back to your body and own a larger sense of yourself when a big change happens.

You have asked to be a messenger, a facilitator of the reawakening that is happening on the planet. It is no small request so don’t be surprised that it doesn’t always play out the way you think it should. Don’t be surprise that you can’t even really understand everything you feel and everything that is happening to you. You can’t. All you can do is not resist.

Don’t resist your feelings, don’t resist saying what you know is true. “Father why have you forsaken me!” You see, even Jesus did not have full awareness and understanding at all times. And here is an even more important part. Do you see how Jesus is grieving? Do you see what he had to move through? Do you see how he expressed what was true in that moment?

And think about his 40 days in the desert. Do you think all that made perfect sense to him at all times? Who among you will go into your desert for 40 days and face all that. You do everything you can to avoid it, including spiritual practices. Jesus did not show a way around resistance, he showed the way through it. He embraced what he knew to be true in his true-self and mostly left the small self in the desert.

Giving birth is no small thing no matter the form it takes. Keep breathing, feeling, listening to your true-self. And by all means do not get upset about where you are right now or what is happening. You don’t understand it all. Just move. Keep going.

You are surrounded by assistance you cannot even see. Open to it. Feel the support of the Host that has your back, who cheer you on and who honor you more than you could know for living your physical life. Deep in your heart you know it is good.

God Dialog 5-10-2010

Focus Wheel Friday #2 – I Am Affraid To Express – Fear I Will Be Harmed

Rob Hamilton — Fri, 14 May 2010 22:27:35 +0000

Withholding our self expression is one of the root causes of weight issues, lack of money and just plain old low self esteem. Rob connects to his own higher thoughts about this issue to help him live a new reality. You can too.

This Focus Wheel reveals FEAR (false evidence appearing real) in a very plain way to show us that our authentic self expression has the opposite effect on our life than we imagine it does when were are in the fog of fear.

Your life matters and is so worth sharing!

Look to the category “Focus Wheel Friday” for a new focus wheel each Friday.

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God Dialog: Love Is Not A 2 Way Street

Rob Hamilton — Sat, 08 May 2010 07:51:35 +0000

In this letter God reveals the true nature of Love to me. Nothing I did not know but could not admit. I wanted it the way I wanted it and stubbornly refused to see Love the way it really is until this letter broke me. How can we deny truth, especially when it flows through our own fingers into the keyboard?

Robby, it is up to you how this will go. It may appear that she is in control but she is not. You are standing in love, in me, it is up to you to open it or close it. You can have it either way. She is crazy about you, but scared and pessimistic and lacking the intimacy that you have with me in the way that you do. She wants it, that intimacy, lead her to it, you can, and give yourself a greater connection to me in the process.

You see, it’s not about you and her Robby, it’s about you and me and how much of that can you bring to her. Do you understand? Your job is not to look for something from her, you look for something from me, and I will give it, and then you give it to her. It’s that simple. That is Love with a capital L. It is the most magnificent gift one and give to another and you can give to yourself. That is what every man on your alter understands. They need nothing because I give them everything, they in turn, give everything to others.

It won’t be a 2 way giving like you thought it would be, you won’t need that, it will be nice, but it won’t fill you like you thought you needed it to. You will already be full Robby, full of me. Keep filling yourself up with me and you will fulfill your destiny. It is my solemn promise to you, a promise you already know to be true, you just forget.

Come to me every day Robby, everyday, just like you take food each day, come to me…eventually you will come to me just as you pull in each breath, each beat of your heart, it will be me, moment to moment…. I look forward to that day with you, it will be so sweet you can’t imagine and the world will be very happy.

God Dialog 2-27-07

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